A subject we have
touched on in the past is the impact sexual addiction can have on the spouse of
an addict. It can ruin relationships, block communication, and really take a
toll on the spouse, as well as the addict. Here are some signs to look out for if
you believe your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend etc., is struggling with
sexual addiction.
Sign #1: They spend
a lot of time sneaking around.
If you notice your
partner has suddenly started staying late at work, talking on the phone to
people they wont tell you about, or doing suspicious activities on the
internet, they may be covering up some unhealthy sexual behaviors. They may
flip to another page when you look at their computer, set up secret email
accounts, or hide their cell phone in an attempt to keep their behavior a
secret.
Sign #2: You notice
a change in their demeanor.
If your partner is
struggling with sexual addiction, they may act differently around you. They
could become more secretive, private, unreliable, or irritable. They could also
become more biter or angry, characteristics that are very common with sexual addicts.
Sign #3: You
experience a lack of intimacy, and sexual interactions with your partner
change.
You may feel that
your partner is "tuned out" when they are around you. They could also
seem less available, or like they're avoiding you. Another thing to look out
for is if your sex life changes - if they avoid sex, want it more frequently, or
if they do things that they have never done before during sex. This could
include being uncharacteristically rough or demanding, requiring more
stimulation, or developing a preference for masturbation.
Sign #4: Your
partner is financially irresponsible.
Many sexual addicts
will secretly use family finances on their personal sexual needs and
activities. They could be spending money on porn, prostitutes, or other sexual
activities, while hiding this spending from you. They could also engage in
risky sexual behaviors that compromise their job.
These are only some
of the many warning signs of sexual addiction. If your partner exhibits one or
more of these characteristics, it may be a sign that they need help. Talk to
your partner, and encourage open communication. Make sure they know you are concerned
about their well-being, and encourage them to seek help. Let them know that you
can beat this together!
References:
"7 Signs Your
Partner is a Sex Addict" http://compulsionsolutions.com/7-signs-your-partner-is-a-sex-addict/
"12 Big Signs
You're in Love with a Sex Addict" by Patsy Rae Dawson
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