You have
noticed that your partner has been engaging in unhealthy sexual behaviors, and
suspect they are a sex addict. You think they should get help, or at least
admit their issue so it can be addressed - ignoring the problem will not make
it go away. Here are some things to keep in mind if and when you choose to
confront your spouse about their addiction.
Confronting
the sexual addict should be done in a deliberate, mindful, and careful way. Do
not approach them with anger or accusations, as it can elicit a defensive
response instead of a productive one. In order to make your partner feel less
attacked or cornered, try to use "I" statements, instead of
"you" statements. This emphasizes your own feelings and needs, and
shows the impact that their addiction has had on you as their partner.
Try to
remember that even though their addiction has hurt you, they are still a person
who you love and have a deep relationship with. You have the right to feel
angry and hurt, but try to express these feelings with compassion. Let them
know that you love them and only want the best for them. Offer help, and
encourage them to seek counseling or group therapy so they can better
themselves and help your relationship.
Reference:
"Constructively
Confronting a Sex Addict" by Kay Jones
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